Mom guilt can be a low hum for some women, and for others a debilitating ROAR that can paralyze even the toughest of persons with anxiety and depression. How do we deal with it? Honestly, I'm still trying to figure it out. My first line of defense though is G.R.A.C.E. Grace.
- Grace to know that the sole reason I am having these guilty feelings is because I want to do my best.
- Grace to know that I can either do better next time, or just let it all go depending on the situation.
- Grace to know that this season in our life is really short and in the long run the "small stuff" I am sweating will work itself out in the end.
- Grace to know that in 3 hours, 3 days, 3 months and 3 years, everything will be very different! I just need to give it some time.
- Grace to know that our children are really individual human beings (not robots) and they have their own chemistry, desires and approaches to life that just is not going to be ours. They never will be us and they should never be.
I find it comforting to speak to other moms, especially those with a lot of children or who have come from large families. They really help me with my perspective. I learn a tremendous amount from them which helps me tamp my own "little devil" back into it's rightful place. Paint on the floors, toys all over the house, picky eaters.... yeah, stop freaking out. It'll be okay with a little Grace and a little time.
A wonderful resource for all moms is Postpartum Education and Support located in Raleigh. They have support meetings and can put you in touch with wonderful resources and counselors if you are suffering from Postpartum Anxiety or Depression.